MY GIRLS

FAYE - my eldest daughter
When she was born into this world, she made me proud to be a mother. Every step of the way before giving birth to her was a blessing. I remembered, when I was pregnant with her for 7 months, I was still going all out to sell insurance, every where I go I felt so light inside me and I was so active and when people saw me, a pregnant woman walking or running so fast, they would advice me to slow down. I work till the day the doctor arranged the date to induced me. That day was 27 May, 1997 and the time was around 1pm when the doctor induced me and the pain started around an hour later. Then after the pain was more frequent and gets more and more frequent until I could not stand the pain any longer, that's when I requested for epidural but they gave me painkiller instead. After that, I began to hallucinate and started to simply talk and begin to see things that did not happened. Then the pain began again and the nurse called for the doctor, when he came in, he checked and scolded the nurse for calling him in too early. Once it reach the stage for delivery, I remembered the breathing technique and started to do the heavy breathing wrongly, I did it too fast until after the delivery my throat starts to sore and couldn't eat at all.

My husband got the most out of this delivery cause he was standing behind the doctor and got the best view. I was so angry with him cause his job was supposed to be standing next to me and holding my hand and comforting me.

At last after 3 hours of torture, my angel finally came out, it was such a great relieve. I rested at the hospital for a day and went home. I tried breastfeeding but not successful and gave up after a week. The engorgement was too pain to bear. Motherhood was never easy with her but after 2 months, she made me felt motherhood was an easy task. She was very attentive and I took her almost everywhere to meet my clients at their office. At 8 months, we decided to employed a maid to look after her cause she's getting too big to be carried around with me to do my business. She's a very fast learner and talk's a lot when she's about 1 year old, so we have no worries about her. Now that she's 13 years old, we can see that she's grown into a beautiful, hardworking, independent and responsible girl. She helps me a lot by taking some of the load off  me by taking care of her special sister, who is very much attached to her then me. I am very thankful to her for such a young girl, she's able to help me bear some responsibility. I remembered when she was 4 years old and I was teaching her sister, Jean, she volunteered to help me out to teach her  It was priceless, seeing her, a 4 year old girl teaching a 2 year old, using a flash cards to teach her and pronouncing the words with phonics sound. She was really a great helper and an angel to us.


JEAN - the younger twin, who is the special kid
Now she's 10 years old. She's been attending homeschooling at a christian base tutorial centre for the 3rd year. If she were normal, I know she'll be so talkative. Even though she's talking about unrelated matters, she still talks alot over whatever that interest her.

Her bad behaviors transform from carrying all her favorite things such as her blanket, her toys, her dress and socks to peeling her skin to plucking her hair.At the moment her tantrums is under control by taking a medication called " Risperdal" prescribed by a psychiatrist, she's consuming about 0.25 to 0.3 ml and vitamins such as Efalax, from AMWAY vitamins B, C, Calcium, Garlic and sometimes folic acid from General hospital. She doesn't drink milk but replaced by soya milk from BioGreen Soya milk powder (from Japan) or Organic Soymilk powder (from Australia). I understand that Soya milk contains higher proteins than cows milk powder, no wonder she grow so tall.

ANNE - the elder twin, normal

I admit that I have neglected her, since my concentration was solely on my special child. However, her father gives her full attention, even that, she still felt the difference between a father's love and absence of the bonding of a mother's love for her. Her behavior changes from wanting attention to showing her temper, shouting at her sister and anger shown in her facial expression. I vowed to help her to be more loving and caring and alway reminds her that we all love her very, very much. But when she's good, she's extremely good and helps out around the house. She's also grown up to be more responsible and helpful. All she needs now is lots of hugs and kisses from me and full support and trust from us. Now that she's 11, we still worry for her as she does her homework at a very slow pace and couldn't sit down to finish her meals and her school homework.

I remembered when they were born (3 weeks early), Anne who came out first (normal) and Jean was born bridged (legs out first). It was a very fast delivery considering having twin. When the doctor saw that Jean was in a bridge position, he efficiently pull her out immediately and I could feel her elbow knocked against my pelvic bone.

Taking care of the twins during the first year:
 It was a breeze taking care of the twins, I managed to breastfeed them for 1 month. They were so adorable and I could not resist cuddling with them most of the time. Immediately after the second week, they stopped waking up in the night for milk and slept through the night. Anne was the bubbly and the cutest one and Jean was the small one. We have to record their milk intake and sometimes mixed up and wrongly gave milk to the same baby again. After the 1st year, Anne stopped using diapers and that save us a lot as diapers were quite costly. Time flies when we were having so much fun and everyday I spent my time looking after them, not wanting to missed out on their growing up years. Jean stopped using diapers when she was 4 years old.